This morning, my oldest daughter, Sari, who is 9 years-old, was digging through our journals. She wasn’t meaning to do anything conniving, but it was a little unsettling when she walked into our bedroom this morning reading an old journal of mine from my college days! I didn’t even know where she got it from! I thought all the journals I had were on one shelf in out living room, all in order of dates. I was wrong. Amanda and I told Sari that we could read parts of our journal, but only if we read them together.

Anyway, this got me thinking about my other journals and I grabbed one off the shelf and thumbed through it briefly. I discovered two things:

1 I was talking with a friend the other day about five things a man must know and embrace that I borrowed from Richard Rohr, but I could only remember one! All five of them were listed on one page in my journal that I saw while I was thumbing through my journal.

  1. Life is hard
  2. You are going to die
  3. You are not that important
  4. You are not in control
  5. Your life is not about you

I love these! I actually used these statements on a two-day canoe trip with some middle school boys several years ago. We would pause and link up our canoes and then talk about each statement one at a time. Very fruitful conversation!

2 I found 8 questions that I had wrote down to discuss with Amanda on our 2nd anniversary. I thought they were worth sharing!

  1. How has your heart been doing lately?
  2. When do you feel most loved?
  3. What are your thoughts on marriage now that we have been married for 2 years?
  4. What are a few things that you really like about us?
  5. What are a few things that you would change (or like to be changed) about your husband?
  6. What are a few things you would change about the way we live our lives currently?
  7. What are a few of your thoughts regarding sex in our marriage? Ideas?
  8. Any traditions that need to be instituted in our family?

I should ask these questions again now that we’ve been married for 12 years, have two children, a dog, and growing list of responsibilities and connections with people!

Thanks for bringing out our old journals, Sari!