Catchy title, eh?!
Justin Buzzard, author of Date Your Wife, wrote an interesting article for the Huffington Post called:
Here is an excerpt:
Many people (especially men) think marriage is a cage, a cage that prevents you from enjoying this kind of extraordinary sex. This way of thinking makes sense. Marriage (as most would define it) means a lifetime of sex with the same person, so it’s easy to conclude that novelty, variety, adventure, passion, and heat would fade when you’re simply having sex with the same old person for multiple decades. How interesting could such sex really be? “It’s a cage,” the masses seem to cry.
Recently a guy in his mid-twenties told me his main objection to what I believe (Christianity) and what I have (a nine year-old marriage) is a sexual objection. He feared the cage.
He told me that he liked sex and didn’t want to get married because he was certain he would then have less sex, and not just less sex — lesser sex. Marriage, he feared, would be a cage that would squash his sexual appetite, and sexual fulfillment.
I then asked him the question that nobody ever asks single people or married people: “How often do you have sex? Wait, let me be exact, how many times have you had sex this past year?”
Answer: “Three times.”
In a loud and jovial voice I immediately replied, “I have like 100 times more sex than you do in a year! And it’s all with one woman, a woman who loves me and gets better at sex every time we have it. It’s hot sex!”
The look on his face was a look of surprise and intrigue.
Hollywood leads us to think singles (or married people carrying on affairs) have all the hot sex while married couples have boring sex, or little or no sex. It’s a lie.
The main reason I liked this article is the depiction of how counter-cultural a marriage (and sex) can be as a Christian. Now not all “Christian” marriages are like this, but I would argue those marriages that are centered on the Gospel of Jesus Christ are like this. The application of faith in Jesus Christ in very real, concrete situations produce the kind of humanity (and marriages… and sex) that God intens for people. And not the kind of humanity that humanity creates and fosters…
You can read the article in its entirety @ The Huffington Post: Hot Monogamous Sex