Always Have the Courage and Humility to Make the Second Decision

When I was in college, I was an RA (Resident Assistant) in the older men’s dormitory. I had made a decision that one of my fellow RA’s thought was incorrect and he asked to meet in order to clarify and, possibly, to change my mind.

I don’t remember the issue at hand, but I will ALWAYS remember one of the stupidest thing I’ve ever said was:

“I know I made a bad decision, but I have to stick with it otherwise they won’t respect me as a leader.”

My partner RA looked at me and said:

“That’s messed up, Jeremy. The guys will respect you not because you stick with a bad decision, but rather if you had the humility to admit that you made a mistake.”

Not too often in life do you admit to something in the moment (it’s too bad, we should), but I remember looking at my friend and said:

“You’re right. You’re absolutely right.”

Because he was right! I had to accept that I was wrong (which I already knew!) and then have the courage and humility to make it right… to make the second decision.

This is part of a series called Patty Proverbs. When I was in college @ Multnomah University in Portland, our professor, Dr. Steve Patty, shared some proverbial leadership wisdom with his students. These are his “proverbs.”


  1. Oh Boy! It is tough to admit that you are wrong. Most important to this story is the fact that you had someone who cared enough to face you with the truth — in love!

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