Baseball Hall of Famer Joe Sewell used only 1 bat in his 14-year career and struck out only 114 times in 7,132 attempts.  He never was convinced that a newer, more sophisticated bat would improve his play.  When he was in a slump, rather than blaming his equipment, he took extra batting practice and focused on his swinging mechanics.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if our nation had that same philosophy towards marriage?  When things go sour, rather than looking to get a new replacement right away, we instead would focus on what we can control – how we can improve our relational mechanics.  How can we be more patient towards our wife?  More thoughtful?  More loving?  You can’t control your wife’s actions, but here are 10 tips to become a better husband to make your marriage stronger.  Work on you and trust the rest will take care of itself.  And encourage your wife to sign up for iMOM’s daily email, the Espresso Minute, so she can thrive better in her role as a mother and spouse.

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It is so natural and easy to blame our equipment (or our spouse) than it is to look at the one using the equipment (me). I like what the author of this post implies: taking personal responsibility instead of blaming others. Now there are times when others are to blame, but according to the kingdom of God ethic we are to practice: we suffer for the sake of the world, even when we are totally right and they are totally wrong.

I know, I know… it’s not popular… living in God’s kingdom isn’t popular… but it’s the true way to be the human beings God created us to be, and it’s our unique vocation to show the world what God is like through our actions, reactions and character.

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