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Sari’s Pic of Herself

When asked to draw a picture of herself @ Kindergarten screening a couple of days ago, this was Sari’s interpretation:

Sari Pic of Herself

Tips for Decoding Body Language

What are you saying when you are not “saying” anything? How does your body language communicate to others?

Here’s a helpful chart to illustrate what you’re communicating when you’re not communicating:

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Story of the Saint on a Plane

I forget about these stories until Amanda tells me: “You should write about ______.” Then I’ll go: “Oh yeah, I forgot about that.”

Here is one of those stories:

The situation: We were flying from Minneapolis, MN to Spokane, WA on an evening direct flight and Sari was a baby; probably around 6-7 months-old.

Back story: We had seemingly done the right thing as parents and had not started or fostered the habit of Sari sleeping in bed with us. She did great sleeping by herself in her crib at night. In fact, that’s what she preferred. Sari’s bedtime was around 9pm (after the 3 naps she had during the day).

Back to the situation: The flight was @ 9pm and would last just under 3 hours.

The problem: There are no cribs on a plane! Sari sleeps great in a crib, but there were no places to lay Sari down comfortably, so she let EVERYONE on the airplane know that she wasn’t thrilled with this situation. Amanda and I were trying desperately to contain Sari and soothe her and appease her and help her… but there was nothing doing… Sari was having none of this sleeping in Mom or Dad’s arms or on our laps.

10 minutes. Screaming. 25 minutes. Still screaming. 45 minutes. Super embarrassed and more screaming.

This girls had some lungs. And in a long metal tube, cruising at 30,000 feet, with people who desperately want to sleep and a little reprieve, Sari was granting no one any such wishes.

I can’t tell you how desperate we were and how frustrated. We tried every trick in the book. The flight attendants tried. We all failed. We were all at a loss on how to help soothe this troubled little baby and her obvious discomfort (and everyone else’s!!).

1 hour. Still screaming. 1:15. Is this ever going to end?

Enter the Saint: About an hour and a half into the flight, I’ve got Sari in my arms at the rear of the plane. I’m rocking back and forth in continued desperation to soothe young Sari. But I’m stressed and frustrated to the hilt!

Sitting in the back row, all by herself, was an older woman. If it’s okay that I say this: she was plump and squishy. That’s how I remember her.

She looked at me with extreme pity, then raised her hands in a gesture that meant: “Here, give her to me.”

A couple of thoughts ran through my head in a split second:

  1. Is this lady crazy? I’m not giving her my child.
  2. I think my child is crazy.
  3. This lady doesn’t look crazy.
  4. She’s doesn’t look dangerous.
  5. She can’t take my child and run… we’re on a plane!
  6. Okay, this doesn’t sound like a bad idea after all

I handed Sari to this woman and sat down in the aisle seat (she was in the window seat). Sari propped herself on this woman’s chest on all fours and her eyes were locked on to mine as if to say: “What do you think you’re doing?” But she wasn’t crying!!

The woman was running her hand from her head to her bottom, over and over again. This saint looked over at me and said: “I’m a Grandma. And we don’t care what other people think!”

The resolution: Within minutes Sari’s eyes were closed and she FINALLY relaxed, as did everyone else on the plane. For the next hour, Sari slept on this wonderful angel God had sent our way, while I slept two seats away.

I wish I would have got her name or phone number or Twitter handle or something because she saved our sanity that night on the plane. We will never forget, though, the compassion this woman exhibited to a desperate young couple with a child that was so stressed and worked up.

God Helps Those in Need | Personal Reflection

My parents both modeled a powerful example of what being like Jesus looks like:

When I was a toddler and a preschooler, my Dad was stationed in West Berlin, Germany (he was in the Air Force).

My parents used to own a VW van that broke down a lot, but they used it to transport various people to church. One time is vivid in my mind: I remember a woman breastfeeding her baby as we bumped down the road to church with a blanket over her. I remember thinking (or now as I ponder backwards) how neat it was that my parents would take a van load of people to church with them. I don’t know why they did or how they did. All I remember was that one time with the breastfeeding lady in the van. I think I classified her as needy. Maybe all of them as needy.

This experience helped form my image of God by my parents modeling for me as a young child what it meant to help other people when they were needy.

God helps those in need.

Linda’s Surprise B-Day Party!

Lori secretly organized a surprise birthday lunch for our Office Manager @ Hayward Wesleyan, Linda, for a significant milestone birthday.

I don’t know if she was surprised or not, but when she walked into the room, she turned around and almost walked out!!

Happy Birthday, Miss Linda!

source YouTube

You Could Ask God What Heaven is Like…

Sari has a tough time sleeping at night. She’s like her Dad… a night owl… doesn’t like going to bed until your body completely shuts down and gives up.

Anyway, the other night I was laying next to Sari while she was attempting to “sleep.” I was trying to give her some good ideas of things to do while laying there staring at the ceiling. I told her she could talk with God…

I said: “You could ask God what heaven is like?”

Sari quips back to me: “Dad. I already know what space looks like!”

Duh, Dad!!

My Daughter, Sari, Turns 5 Today!

Macie (left) and Sari (right) next to the dragon pinata at Sari's 5 year-old "Princess Party"

Early in the morning, exactly 5 years ago, Sari graced us with her presence into this world. And nothing has been the same since!

Happy Birthday to my first and oldest daughter! May you continue to grow in relationship with the Lord and may the Holy Spirit continue to shape your character as you seek God with all your heart.

Mom and I love you lots!!

“I’ve Always Loved Jesus!”

For the last couple of months we’ve been repeating a sort of mantra with the girls at bed time.

We say: “Who loves you?”

The girls reply: “Mom, Dad and God.”

Then we ask: “Why did God make you?”

To which the girls answer: “To love God, and to love others.”

The other night I took the application a little further. I asked Sari how she was doing with loving others. She talked about a close friend of hers and how she’s trying to allow God to help her love her friend better.

Then I asked Sari how she was doing in the “loving God” category, to which she replied:

“Oh Daddy, I’ve always loved Jesus!”

Blame Your Equipment, or the One Swinging the Bat?

Baseball Hall of Famer Joe Sewell used only 1 bat in his 14-year career and struck out only 114 times in 7,132 attempts.  He never was convinced that a newer, more sophisticated bat would improve his play.  When he was in a slump, rather than blaming his equipment, he took extra batting practice and focused on his swinging mechanics.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if our nation had that same philosophy towards marriage?  When things go sour, rather than looking to get a new replacement right away, we instead would focus on what we can control – how we can improve our relational mechanics.  How can we be more patient towards our wife?  More thoughtful?  More loving?  You can’t control your wife’s actions, but here are 10 tips to become a better husband to make your marriage stronger.  Work on you and trust the rest will take care of itself.  And encourage your wife to sign up for iMOM’s daily email, the Espresso Minute, so she can thrive better in her role as a mother and spouse.

Copyright 2011 All Pro Dad. All Rights Reserved. Reprinted with permission. For more fatherhood resources, visit AllProDad.com.

It is so natural and easy to blame our equipment (or our spouse) than it is to look at the one using the equipment (me). I like what the author of this post implies: taking personal responsibility instead of blaming others. Now there are times when others are to blame, but according to the kingdom of God ethic we are to practice: we suffer for the sake of the world, even when we are totally right and they are totally wrong.

I know, I know… it’s not popular… living in God’s kingdom isn’t popular… but it’s the true way to be the human beings God created us to be, and it’s our unique vocation to show the world what God is like through our actions, reactions and character.

via All Pro Dad blog

Sonshine Center Christmas Concert 2011

Amanda and I send our kids to the Sonshine Center for daycare on the days that Amanda works. Every year, Michelle, Susan & Judith Madison (the proprietors) organize a Christmas party for the parents and children. The kids work really hard to prepare a couple of musical numbers and were really excited to share these songs with their parents:

Deck the Halls

Jingle Bells

We Wish You a Merry Christmas

source YouTube [1], [2], [3]

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